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What if your tween told you they were transgendered? (4 posts)

1 year, 8 months ago
By irina-gonzalez

“Meet Jackie, a transgendered 10-year-old with full parental support.”

When we posted this discussion on our Facebook page for Momster and for Family Circle, we got very different responses.

Some said that they would love and support their children no matter what, while others claimed that God does not make mistakes and didn’t approve.

Let’s continue the conversation: what would you tell your child if they confided in you that they think they were born the wrong sex? How would you support your child– by teaching them about God or letting them explore their identity? Sound off below!

Watch the video and read the story here:
http://jezebel.com/5836136/

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    csandksmom said 1 year, 8 months ago:

    Wow, I can certainly relate to his/her grandfather…how CAN any 10-yr. old know that much about themselves, that they are then able to make such a life-altering decision ? At 10, my girls were thinking about sooooo many other things besides what this child is. They were even beginning to experience some of the changes that girls have. But THIS GIRL won’t have THOSE changes. What sort of changes will he/she have ?

    And I can’t help but wonder, if he didn’t have an older sister, that probably wanted to dress him up in her clothes, would he be more comfortable in boy’s clothes ?
    Maybe if his Dad put more time into playing with his son, would he have wanted to act more like his Dad ? Or IS he NOW acting like his Dad ?
    I can see letting the child dress up at home, maybe, but out in public, he needs to wear jeans and tshirts (standard transgender kid clothes). And who lets their 10 year old wear makeup, that’s not just for play or dress-up ?
    I have some serious doubts about the parenting skills of those parents…..

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    lisan said 1 year, 2 months ago:

    I would tell them, “OK.” It doesn’t make any difference to me. They would need to be aware that society will make it harder for them.

    An older sister dressing up her brother does NOT make for a transgendered child! They have male role models, or at least see them in public, on TV at the very minimum, in stores, books, etc. My husband died when my youngest children were little. My son didn’t become transgendered by being raised in a home with a mother and an older sister!
    No 10 year old should wear lipstick!

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    msmw said 1 year, 2 months ago:

    Knowing that my child is confronting a difficult problem ( he would be very aware of the resistance he will face), I would hold him close, tell him I love him, and that he always has my support and love.
    I would strongly advise counseling so that HE will learn to know himself fully. I would know that he was not making a choice, but dealing with a reality. All such children need love and support.

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