I think when your kid doesn’t want to go to college you need to figure out whether your kid really doesn’t want to go, is afraid, if college is not a place where at this point in his/her life he would excel. My daughter was always college bound in ours and her mind from the time she was very young, wanted to be a lawyer, etc. But when it came time to go she was scared to death, had a difficult time being away from home. She’s had problems with grades the first year and although she did better with the homesickness second semester she still struggled with it.
At this point I’m torn. She needs to be away I think in many respects outside of school. At the same time I feel like I have sort of dragged her through that first year from 1100 miles away and while I would rather put my eye out than see her blow the free ride she currently enjoys, if she doesn’t get it together this year I will recommend that she quit and work for a year or whatever until she really decides she wants to make the commitment, discipline, etc. to finish.
We all know it is harder to go when you don’t go right out of high school which I believe is probably the primary reason that all of us freak out when little Billy says he doesn’t want to go to college Some kids need to learn the hard way, to do things the difficult way and we need to figure out how to let them, to walk that tightrope between helping, encouraging and sometimes downright pushing and backing off and letting them deal with the consequences of their choices.