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Mother & Mother-in-law (1 post)

My parents and his mother don’t get along at all! His parents were separated when he was young and then his dad passed away last year, so it’s just his mom. My parents and his mom don’t talk so much even though they live in the same town…but each of them tells us that his mom didn’t call my mom or my mom didn’t call his mom at least to greet or wish. And when they talk even on the phone (they don’t usually meet in-person), I and my husband get a laundry list of complaints on how each of them talked or the tone of their conversation etc. We got married young and it has been 10yrs ever since; we have a 3yr old and another due in 3wks. Currently my mother-in-law is visiting us and she’ll be staying with us for a few months. My mom did not like that because she wanted to come (we gave my parents a chance to come when we were due with our first child and they did – the stay wasn’t so satisfactory for us) and she started exaggerating all her conversations with my mother-in-law to me. And my mother-in-law on the other hand she doesn’t say anything to my face but she keeps chewing my husband’s ears on how my parents behaved when they went to see her off. Oh, one thing I forgot to mention, both our parents live in India and they visit us or we visit them once every few years. These visits are never fun for us because my parents don’t like me spending time with my mother-in-law and my mother-in-law doesn’t like us (including me) spending time with my parents. So each time we visit India, it takes me and my husband a few weeks to get back to normality. I and my husband tend to keep it open and try not to bring a conflict between us. One other thing – his mom is very good writing really long emails/ letters in emails when she finds a situation with my parents or me or any decision that we make. Trust me when I say long – she once wrote a 14pg word doc after our second visit to India after our wedding! She still does that and that behavior really upsets my husband as well…she tends to question each and every decision we make. At times we tend to think why we care about what they think on what we do within our family or our lives! Right now, when I have 3wks till my due date – I am very close to snapping at them for what they are putting us thru! But in the end they are our parents we don’t want to say anything that makes them sad but at the same time they are not thinking about us when they are coming up with all this stuff. Need help please…I need to keep my cool in the last few weeks! Thanks for your help…

Mother & Mother-in-law

My parents and his mother don’t get along at all! His parents were separated when he was young and then his dad passed away last year, so it’s just his mom. My parents and his mom don’t talk so much even though they live in the same town…but each of them tells us that his mom didn’t call my mom or my mom didn’t call his mom at least to greet or wish. And when they talk even on the phone (they don’t usually meet in-person), I and my husband get a laundry list of complaints on how each of them talked or the tone of their conversation etc. We got married young and it has been 10yrs ever since; we have a 3yr old and another due in 3wks. Currently my mother-in-law is visiting us and she’ll be staying with us for a few months. My mom did not like that because she wanted to come (we gave my parents a chance to come when we were due with our first child and they did – the stay wasn’t so satisfactory for us) and she started exaggerating all her conversations with my mother-in-law to me. And my mother-in-law on the other hand she doesn’t say anything to my face but she keeps chewing my husband’s ears on how my parents behaved when they went to see her off. Oh, one thing I forgot to mention, both our parents live in India and they visit us or we visit them once every few years. These visits are never fun for us because my parents don’t like me spending time with my mother-in-law and my mother-in-law doesn’t like us (including me) spending time with my parents. So each time we visit India, it takes me and my husband a few weeks to get back to normality. I and my husband tend to keep it open and try not to bring a conflict between us. One other thing – his mom is very good writing really long emails/ letters in emails when she finds a situation with my parents or me or any decision that we make. Trust me when I say long – she once wrote a 14pg word doc after our second visit to India after our wedding! She still does that and that behavior really upsets my husband as well…she tends to question each and every decision we make. At times we tend to think why we care about what they think on what we do within our family or our lives! Right now, when I have 3wks till my due date – I am very close to snapping at them for what they are putting us thru! But in the end they are our parents we don’t want to say anything that makes them sad but at the same time they are not thinking about us when they are coming up with all this stuff. Need help please…I need to keep my cool in the last few weeks! Thanks for your help…

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