Firstly, congratulations on your sobriety! What’s even better is that you are opening up about your struggle and seeking advice, because the disease of alcoholism is much more complicated by the shame and secrecy that go hand in hand with both having it and living with a person who is addicted. My dad was an alcoholic, so growing up I had the perfect example of what addiction does. Realize that experimentation and social drinking are much different for the “normal” person that they are for the alcoholic. Even growing up with my dad, I did experiment and it ran it’s course very quickly– I don’t drink and was done after about 3 episodes of drunkeness and hang over. 25 years ago, no one said drinking was genetic, it was more looked at as a character flaw. But, the thinking is very different now, and your daughter needs to understand the potential for addictive personality and tendency that runs in the family– and it isn’t just alcohol. She must be informed just as if breast cancer ran in the family. This way, she can take steps to make healthy and informed choices. Unfortunately, your hubby has the secrecy habit as an ingrained one and he’s not thinking objectively. Go with honesty, safety, and open the doors of communication. Be cautious about oversharing or assuming that alcohol is as much as a loaded gun for her as it is for you. Don’t go for the “horror” stories, it won’t accomplish what you hope. But do tell her how hard it was to overcome your addiction. Reassure her that you chose sobriety every day. Acknowledge that she has to learn to trust her own instincts and learn her own tolerance levels if she does decide to experiment. Let her know you are holding her accountable and that you want her to be honest about any and all experimentation. Tell her to stick to the “just ONE” rule– and how to be responsible instead of just saying “don’t”.